Lately things have been quiet around here. I’m not blogging as much as I used to, for any number of reasons. Said reasons, being both annoying and harrowing, I found myself in a funk. A funk that said, “Awe, screw it, I’m freakin’ done with this crap!”. I as much as much said that to a group of freinds on Facebook. Then an amazing thing happened. These women, from all over the interwebs, stepped up and said “Knock it off. Put on your big girl panties! While you’re doing that we’ll whip up some Nuggets for ya”. There are people out there (most with Twitter avatars that are still in ovum form) who say that “digital freinds” aren’t real friends. In response I present you with my digital and VERY REAL friend Jodi of Jodifur to tell you what a digital friendship can mean. After all true friendship knows no geography, takes on many forms and is the one thing you can count on to be there when you when life tosses you those “Screw It!” or even scary moments.
Some people don’t get blogging. When I try to explain why I blog, sometimes I am
met with a blank stare. “You tell your life story on the computer?” “But what about
your son’s privacy?” “Why would you do that?”
8 weeks ago my husband was laid off from his job. 7 weeks later he found a new
one. I know in this economy that is not that long, but for those 7 weeks I was a
mess. I was scared. I had no idea what was going to happen, if it was going to take
him a week, a month, 6 months, or a year to find a new job.
The people who reached out to me the most were my social media friends. Some
I had gotten to know in real life, but not all. Not a day went by that I didn’t get an
email, a tweet, a facebook message, asking me how I was doing. A reader sent me
a gift certificate to a restaurant so Doug and I had a place to spend our 10 year
anniversary. And when I was really at my lowest point, I found myself at a close
friend’s house, who I had met through blogging, sitting on her couch, crying. She
had just had a baby, and she never said, “hey, I’ve got a lot going on here too.” She
listened, she never judged, and she distracted my son with her son’s Harry Potter
People emailed me jobs for Doug. They asked for his resume so they could pass
it along. And while I’m protective of my last name online, it never occurred to me
not to send along his resume which not only has our last name but also our home
address on it.
Don’t get me wrong. My real life friends were amazing as well, showed up and
called and helped in more ways than I can count. But it is the friends inside the
box that surprised me. The ones you don’t expect anything from. The ones you
don’t “really know” but that you share yourself with every single day, whose caring
really touched me.
That is why I keep blogging. It is certainly not for the money, or any kind of pretend
glory. It is for the community and the people and all that it has given me. They got
me through. When I didn’t think anything could get me through.
About Jodi: She is one of the few native Washingtonians actually living in Washington.
She works part time as an attorney and lives with her husband, Doug, her
son, Michael, as well as a dog, Foster, who has many, many issues. She
started Jodifur because her husband kept telling her she reads so many blogs
so might as well write one, and hasn’t stopped for almost five years. She
also Twitters, a lot, and is on Facebook too.